What Should I Do With My Instagram?

Yes, I have an Instagram. It has a little over 300 followers. I haven’t really been focusing on it for a while. I also have an Instagram TV account that I haven’t really been foucsing on either. Also, now Instagram has Reels, which are like TikToks. I also started a TikTok account last week. What I guess I’m trying to say is, I have too many social medias and I don’t know what to do with all of them.

But, no, no, no, here me out. What if I just focused on Instagram for a few months and tried really hard at it? What if I just totally went for it?

My Instagram Attempts

Here’s pretty much what I’ve been able to accomplish for a few weeks.

I spent a weekend at my dad’s recently. We didn’t know each other when I was growing up so we just sort of get together a few times a year and hang out and stuff. I took advantage of their Christmas tree.

This next set of photos is also at my dad’s. I love his house. He pretty much built it himself. I can’t even make a wooden box.

I have discovered that I’m not afraid of just using the default Instagram filters a lot of the time. Sometimes they really do make things pop.

My Attempts At Home

Now that going out isn’t an option all the time with the coronavirus out there, I wanted to try some Instagram stuff at home. I figure I’ll need to get better at shooting photos and stuff at home if my Instagram ever did take off, anyway.

This next set of photos didn’t really work out as well as I’d have liked. The filters I used on these made them too soft and bright, but oh well. Sometimes a traditional edit session with Lightroom is probably a necessity. Or I could just take better photos.

Rearranging My Bedroom For My Insagram

I learned pretty quickly that using the living room all the time would be weird, because I have a roommate. Using my bedroom is more ideal. However, there wasn’t enough space for decent photography sessions until I rearranged some things. After I had the space, I tried some different things. The results are bellow.

I Think I Really Shine When I’m Outside

It’ll probably help when I can go out more regularly and do things. I did a standard selfie session with my phone when I went to get coffee this morning.

Can My Brand Be “I’m Gay And In My 30s”?

I’m sure it’ll take me a while to get used to Instagram again, and probably even longer to figure out what exactly I want to do with it. For now I’ll just run with the “I’m gay and single and in my 30s” thing and see where that gets me.

Do you post on Instagram? Have any tips? I’ll see if I can try them out. I’ve watched a bunch of YouTube videos and I’ve got a big long list of things I can try.

Eric Shay Howard red hoodie selfie for my Instagram
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My Four-Day Weekend Was Completely Wasted On Watching The West Wing

Good afternoon, everyone! What’s it been, like a week? Or did I blog twice last week? Honestly, I can’t remember, and I’m probably not going to stop writing this to go look. I did discover something interesting by not blogging every day – my unique visitors stay roughly the same, though my individual views go down. I guess you guys just get bored after a few days into the week and just start clicking crap. I’m not judging – ya’ll can do whatever. But, hey, at least I know that I don’t HAVE to blog everyday if I don’t have a lot going on.

The last few weeks I really haven’t done much except be infected with the coronavirus, procrastinate in my grad school classes, and write some. I think I’m officially over the coronavirus. It look a good long while. Not fun. Anyway, I’ve not had any symptoms for like a week and I haven’t had to take any fever reducers for about 8 days, I think.

My Four-Day Weekend

My Thanksgiving was alright. My roommate and I bought Thanksgiving dinner plates from a local dining service and ate by ourselves in our living room. How was your all’s Thanksgiving? Or your weekend? Also, can four day weekends just be standard now? That’s what I’m going to work towards – setting my life up to enjoy four-day weekends as often as possible. Unrealistic, you say? It goes against the grain that’s been perpetuated by society since the dawn of unemployment rate monitoring, sure, but I’m not convinced.

While we’re talking about unrealistic life goals, Yes, I’m still thinking about moving out of the state rather quickly. Within a year would be best. Have I mentioned how over Kentucky I am? Yes, being gay in Kentucky still very much sucks. I used to think it was getting better, but every election year I’m reminded that I’m still looked down upon by about 70% of the people here.

I think with my next paycheck, I’m going to plan some bus trips to Chicago sometime next March and April. Then maybe a trip to San Francisco in May, though I’ll have to schedule it way in advance to get a lower price on a plane ticket. (Not bussing to California, sorry.) Gosh, I really hope 2021 works out.

What I’m Reading/Watching/Doing

What am I reading this week? I suppose I could start throwing that in these things. I’m reading The Orphan Master’s Son by Adam Johnson. It’s um, not my usual reading, I’ll give it that. Yes, I’m just sort of trying to catch up on Pulitzers. I try to read them because, well, some people met and discussed them and determined they were worth reprinting a million times.

Also, in other random life news, I’m trying my best to avoid buying a new cell phone, because I finally paid off my Samsung Galaxy S9+, and would like to keep a lower bill for a while. I don’t know if I’ll succeed, especially if a new one comes out in March.

Also, I’m watching The West Wing. I can’t believe I haven’t watched it until now. Apparently it leaves Netflix December 24th, so I only have a few weeks to finish it.

What Are You Doing?

Anyway, how is your all’s Monday going? What did you do over the weekend? What are ya reading? What are ya watching?

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I Want To Move Out of Kentucky

I didn’t blog much last week because I’ve been sick and quarantining with coronavirus, so I just haven’t really done a whole lot. I have been doing a lot of thinking, though.

I’m still very single and at this point, since I’m 33 years old and almost 34, I have decided that there’s a good chance I’ll probably never find another guy who is interested in anything serious that I will ever feel close enough to, so I’ve decided to just make the rest of 2020 and 2021 about finishing my master’s degree, rebuilding my finances, and finding a new place to live where I can just exist and be happy alone. I’m also very very tired of living in a state where the overwhelming majority of people in it actually don’t want me to be happy as a gay man.

So, 2021 will be about finding a new state and city to live in. I’ve lived in Kentucky all my life and I have reached my breaking point with it. This state is one of the lowest rated states in higher education. People get mad at me when I say this, but it’s really starting to show. Religion is too often used as scientific reasoning, and the people here aren’t even actually that nice. And, after spending 34 years here, I really don’t think it’s going to get any better. At least not for me. So, I’m done. I’m leaving.

I can be much happier somewhere else. Somewhere where the attorney general doesn’t want me to die and the overwhelming majority of people don’t actually consider a governor closing indoor dining to stop the spread of the deadly disease a dictator. Also, if gay marriage becomes an issue again due to the supreme court, I do not trust Kentucky. I know politics are not set in stone anywhere, and many states flip flop, which Kentucky does on occasion. But, it never sticks. And you know what? I’m single, I’m in my thirties, and I don’t have to be stuck in this state anymore.

Things I Need To Take Care Of First

To successfully move to a place where I can fully enjoy existing by myself, a few things need to happen. I have some credit cards I need to finish paying off (I’m horrible with money – yes, as apparently are all democrats, or so I hear from family.) I also need to build up my savings some.

For me to exist happily somewhere alone, the area I live in needs to have certain things:

  • It needs to be a metropolitan area.
  • I require public transportation.
  • There have to be bike lanes.
  • SIDEWALKS. You wouldn’t believe how bad some cities are at sidewalks. It is mind-baffling to me.

The reason the area needs to be a metropolitan area is because I will be stuck in it a lot unless I want to travel by bus or plane, so it needs to be an area that is well equipped to meet a person’s needs. While most people can live in a smaller town and just drive to a bigger city when they need to, I can’t. I can’t legally drive due to a peripheral vision issue.

So, I have some searching to do. There are some cities I have in mind, but I have to do some research and spend some time in them. That is what 2021 is mostly going to be about. My current top choices are San Francisco, New York City, and Chicago. There are other places to consider as well. I’ll blog about them as I go. There are also a slew of other areas where I might end up going to get a doctorate or another masters degree anyway.

So, yeah, I’m moving. I know most here in this state will probably say good riddance. And that’s okay, because I will find a place with people that don’t say that.

Why am I sharing this? Because I paid good money for my web hosting and my domain name, and I felt like it. How was your weekend? If you’re in the San Francisco or New York City or Chicago area, any apartment hunting tips? Know of any cities or neighborhoods with good transportation options?

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Yes My Arms Are Still Sore! And the news this week has been not cool.

It’s still raining. I won’t be going to the gym today either. My arms STILL sore anyways.

Also, the grand jurors stated that they asked about other charges in the Breonna Taylor case.

The coronavirus infections continue to rise in Kentucky. 1,884 new cases yesterday. A new record. Still no new “mandates” because people in this state are so very uneducated and won’t understand.

And, all the guys on Grindr still just want to hookup. Like, they don’t even try to pretend for 5 minutes they want something else. I miss that about dating.

Honestly, my friend in prison who I wrote a while back still writes me weekly and that’s been the highlight of my life lately. Well, that and my fiction collection. I’m just making sure I don’t see any other typos or goofs before I push the buttons.

I’m not depressed, just tired. Is it the weekend, yet?

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Gay Guys With Long Hair Can’t Find Dates

I usually keep short hair. Sometimes, like during crazy-busy periods of my life or pandemics, I don’t get a haircut for a while and I end up looking like Keanu Reeves’s not-as-good-looking cousin with a lazy eye. Sometimes the job I have dictates a haircut before it gets too bad, but I work at a pretty woke place and they do not give a crap. Therefore, my hair is too long. This is a problem because gay guys won’t date guys with long hair.

Eric Shay Howard Needs Haircut

I’m going to make every attempt possible tomorrow to get a haircut tomorrow on my lunch break. I’m at my limit with my hair. I’ve been avoiding a haircut due to COVID19, but I’m at that point. I don’t even want to open my Grindr because I’ve had long hair before and gay guys won’t date guys with long hair.

I procrastinate getting my haircut, too.

This is too much information, but I always put off the haircut an extra week or so anyways because I have a mole on my neck. Well, two moles on my neck. I have to cover them with Band-Aids before I go in or somehow the haircutter-person (barber?) will nick it with the clippers, and even though there’s a guard, it will bleed and freak everyone out. I need to get this mole removed. That will be another blog post.

How do you describe your haircut to your barber?

Another thing that happens is I usually show them a photo of my hair at its best. It’s actually my author photo for my book. It’s also on my bio page here on my blog. I think it’s in some other places, too. It is my favorite photo of me, even though it’s like three or four years old. I like it because I’m cute in it and it hides my neck-mole.

Yes, I’m that probably annoying person who uses a photo to show the person how I like my hair because I don’t understand what I’m trying to say about my hair. I just want my hair like this. The haircutter person will usually say something like, “your hair doesn’t do that.”

“Yes it does. This is me.”

“This is you?” 😲

They do not generally believe that this is me so I have to resort to just telling them to cut it to about an inch and a half, or two inches? I don’t know which length is right, which is why I show them the photo. The point is, getting my haircut is a lot of work.

But, I’m going to get a haircut tomorrow because I’m so over it. I forgot my contacts today and had to wear my glasses to work. I had some moments, you guys. Very angry, hair-pulling moments.

Gay guys with long hair struggle with finding dates.

I also struggle with dating when I have long hair. I don’t know why gay guys don’t like guys who have long hair. You’ll have to explain it to me in the comments at the bottom of this blog post. Guys tell me they don’t so I know I’m not making it up. They say “I’d date you, but you have long hair.” I think they’re just not attracted to me, and the long hair is an easy cop-out. I think if a really hot, muscular, Superman type guy was hitting on them and that Superman had long hair, they would date them. The problem is, when I do cut my hair, I’ll have to deal with the harsh reality that I’m just not good enough for some people. I guess that’s okay?

Right, I don’t know what this turned into. I’m getting my haircut tomorrow. I miss having short hair, and I’d like a date with a cute guy. And yes, I prefer having short hair, so I should have gotten my haircut sooner. I’m sorry.

Here are some old photos of me with long hair during another crazy-busy periods of my life, sometime between 2012-2013. I really do have beautiful long hair. I’m super proud of it. It’s like a little secret talent I have. I can grow long, pretty hair.

What do you think of guys with long hair? Are you gay? Do you hate guys with long hair? Why or why not? Would you date me? Okay, don’t answer that. I’m just feeling needy and lonely today.

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UPDATE: I got my haircut at 3pm. To take a late lunch, I had to sacrifice a small goat and sign a contract stating my gorgeous haircut wouldn’t result in me leaving the firm to become a new hit TV show personality, but I got it.

Eric Shay Howard short hair
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