I didn’t blog much last week because I’ve been sick and quarantining with coronavirus, so I just haven’t really done a whole lot. I have been doing a lot of thinking, though.
I’m still very single and at this point, since I’m 33 years old and almost 34, I have decided that there’s a good chance I’ll probably never find another guy who is interested in anything serious that I will ever feel close enough to, so I’ve decided to just make the rest of 2020 and 2021 about finishing my master’s degree, rebuilding my finances, and finding a new place to live where I can just exist and be happy alone. I’m also very very tired of living in a state where the overwhelming majority of people in it actually don’t want me to be happy as a gay man.
So, 2021 will be about finding a new state and city to live in. I’ve lived in Kentucky all my life and I have reached my breaking point with it. This state is one of the lowest rated states in higher education. People get mad at me when I say this, but it’s really starting to show. Religion is too often used as scientific reasoning, and the people here aren’t even actually that nice. And, after spending 34 years here, I really don’t think it’s going to get any better. At least not for me. So, I’m done. I’m leaving.
I can be much happier somewhere else. Somewhere where the attorney general doesn’t want me to die and the overwhelming majority of people don’t actually consider a governor closing indoor dining to stop the spread of the deadly disease a dictator. Also, if gay marriage becomes an issue again due to the supreme court, I do not trust Kentucky. I know politics are not set in stone anywhere, and many states flip flop, which Kentucky does on occasion. But, it never sticks. And you know what? I’m single, I’m in my thirties, and I don’t have to be stuck in this state anymore.
Things I Need To Take Care Of First
To successfully move to a place where I can fully enjoy existing by myself, a few things need to happen. I have some credit cards I need to finish paying off (I’m horrible with money – yes, as apparently are all democrats, or so I hear from family.) I also need to build up my savings some.
For me to exist happily somewhere alone, the area I live in needs to have certain things:
- It needs to be a metropolitan area.
- I require public transportation.
- There have to be bike lanes.
- SIDEWALKS. You wouldn’t believe how bad some cities are at sidewalks. It is mind-baffling to me.
The reason the area needs to be a metropolitan area is because I will be stuck in it a lot unless I want to travel by bus or plane, so it needs to be an area that is well equipped to meet a person’s needs. While most people can live in a smaller town and just drive to a bigger city when they need to, I can’t. I can’t legally drive due to a peripheral vision issue.
So, I have some searching to do. There are some cities I have in mind, but I have to do some research and spend some time in them. That is what 2021 is mostly going to be about. My current top choices are San Francisco, New York City, and Chicago. There are other places to consider as well. I’ll blog about them as I go. There are also a slew of other areas where I might end up going to get a doctorate or another masters degree anyway.
So, yeah, I’m moving. I know most here in this state will probably say good riddance. And that’s okay, because I will find a place with people that don’t say that.
Why am I sharing this? Because I paid good money for my web hosting and my domain name, and I felt like it. How was your weekend? If you’re in the San Francisco or New York City or Chicago area, any apartment hunting tips? Know of any cities or neighborhoods with good transportation options?